Sex before marriage?

Kyle · 07-17-2006, 05:14 PM

What are your thoughts? In all seriousness, even if you are a Christian it is a difficult thing to stray from. Whatever religion you are a part of and type of friends you hang out with plays into this greatly. What do you feel about this controversial topic. I'm against it, but at the same time I joke about it all the time. The reason I'm against it is obviously because of religion. I can easily understand why if you're not a Christian or of some religion that's against it, why you'd be all for it. Post your thoughts.

Dark One · 07-17-2006, 06:16 PM

I am a Christian but that does not mean Im against it. I think If u realy love the person and they truly love you fine. Only if there is LOVE. Also make suer it is not just a one night stand. So Yes im for Sex before marriage. If there is love.

Lenne520 · 07-17-2006, 06:26 PM

im christain and im all for it. but then again im against it because ull never know if that person did it because they love u with all of their heart or if they just did it because the other person was vunerable

LionheartVIII · 07-17-2006, 06:33 PM

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Originally Posted by final_heartless

I am a Christian but that does not mean Im against it. I think If u realy love the person and they truly love you fine. Only if there is LOVE. Also make sure it is not just a one night stand. So Yes im for Sex before marriage. If there is love.

I agree. If there is love then it is fine.

Blacksmith · 07-17-2006, 06:53 PM

Sex before marriage happens everyday and is not as bad as it seems. Many young peoples views seem to be distorted that sex will be amazing after marriage and other bullshit so they wait or in this case if it's really love then it's ok to do so.

I'll tell you something that should skip you ahead a few years. Real love is extremely hard to come by so really, there's no pointing in "waiting". In fact marriage itself is extremely overrated these days yet kids today are still believing it's an amazing event that will alter their lives into happiness...which couldn't be more wrong.

Now, by a lot of my friends experiences and statistics it pretty much states...sex stops after marriage. Maybe not completely, but you are not going to have as much sex as you did before when you were just dating. What's worse is ALL of the power nowadays is shifted towards the females in this case so you're not going to have a say in anything. And sex after marriage is only going to make it worse for you since 60% of marriages these days end up in divorce. Meaning there is a bigger chance of your marriage becoming a flop.

My advice to anyone whatever religion is treat sex respectfully, but don't suspect or believe everything you hear. I'm not even going to get married myself. It isn't amazing after marriage and will only get your ass raped in the end. Course you do want to love the other person, but in this day and age men are trying to find the hot intelligent chick while women are going for the tall, dark, and handsome knight in shining armor kind of guy...completely superficial. Everyone is extremely picky. If you want sex before marriage, go get it. It really is better to have experience over something you've never done in your entire life. Also, western women are quite evil...stay away from them, lol.

Plastik Assassin · 07-17-2006, 06:53 PM

Spam it up, Kiddos.

Anyways....I have no qualms about sex before marriage. I am not a christian, nor do I pretend to be. Even if I was, my opinion would more than likely be the same. I dont see it as that big of a deal really....

I did grow up in a catholic household, and was always taught that pre-marital sex was a sin. Thankfully, I was lucky enough to have the power to form my own opinion of it all. I understand the reasons why a lot of people frown upon the act, but I dont really support it. I dont really know why, it just doesnt seem like its really that important in the grand scheme of things...

I do believe in love before sex, although I have been guilty of having a few too many drinks on a night out and not embracing that belief. I am not a saint by any means. All I know is that in the end of it all, the fact that I had intimate physical relations with another willing human being is not going to put me into a bad place....

One more thing - Wear a condom. No glove, no love.

*Chez Daja* · 07-17-2006, 07:10 PM

First of all, Lionheart, Lenne, please add more content to your posts. Anymore one or two-liners and I shall be throwing out some warnings.

Secondly, yes, I believe in sex before marriage. I do believe you should only have sex at all if it's with somebody that you really love romantically, but that's me talking out of a somewhat "traditional" standpoint. There is somebody special in my life, and I wouldn't suddenly change my view on sex until after marriage. To an extent, I think marriage is unneeded. You can still love each other deeply and be committed to one another without stepping up to the alter and claiming so. You can also be completely devoted to one another and be together forever without saying so at an alter.
I would love to take my boyfriends' second name, but it's not like I need to. And I don't need to do that to have sex with him, either.
It's perfectly natural to have sex with a girlfriend/boyfriend that you love. Then again, though, I have nothing against marriage first. I just think it's much more comfortable for a loving couple to have sex beforehand.

TomStrife · 07-17-2006, 07:16 PM

I believe sex is a gift from God preserved for those who are married and has been abused from our culture so much that it has gone from a beatiful thing to a grotesque thing. Mind you, I am a virgin, and I intend to stay that way until I am married.

And please don't tell me I need "experience" or my marriage will be corrupt. Anyone marrying for the soul purpose of sex will divorce, I guarantee it.

Due to our perverted culuture, statistics have proven 50% of marriages end up in divorce. That's right folks, every other couple you see breaks off.

What a sad world.

Melanie · 07-17-2006, 07:35 PM

My standings on this have changed in the past few months. I believe in sex before marriage without necessarily LOVING the person, but I DO believe being in love for your first time. After that, eh. If you care about them to a point, yeah go ahead. That's just my standing :/.

I'm not religious, obviously.

Jin · 07-17-2006, 07:36 PM

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Originally Posted by TomStrife

Due to our perverted culuture, statistics have proven 50% of marriages end up in divorce. That's right folks, every other couple you see breaks off.

What a sad world.

How so? Why exactly does a high divorce rate make the world a sad place? It must be easy to depress you.

Marrige is nothing more than a symbol (well, a legally binding symbol, heh). Some people think that it's a way for them to express thier love for one another (or to avoid deportation), so they do it. That's fine, power to them. If they think it's special and important to keep thier chastity belt locked until after they express thier love in said manner, then again, good for them. If, however, they decide they don't need to express themselves in this way and prefer to have sex before or without ever doing it, then good for them as well. If they feel bored and want a romp with someone they barely know whome probably has herpes, fantastic. That's the great thing about life: it's yours.

Wolf · 07-17-2006, 08:30 PM

I was also raised in a Catholic household, like Plastik Assassin. I personally don't believe in sex before marriage, but if people want to have sex before marriage, it's their decision, and it should be respected, just like a couple's decision to not have sex untill marriage.

*Maridia* · 07-17-2006, 09:09 PM

I don't see anything wrong with sex before marriage. I mean seeing as half the marriages in the US fail doesn't mean that if they saved up for 1 night that it would make a differance. Sex is something humans do and like doing which is fine. As long as you know what you're doing and willing to except the responsability for your actions then that's a-ok with me. If the 2 people are enjoying it and it isn't hurting anyone then why say there's something wrong with it?

OnOneRyder · 07-17-2006, 10:53 PM

If it feels good and no one get's physically hurt go for it! Sure people can be hurt emotionally but that happens in all aspects of life. I'm all for anything that brings pleasure without pain. Sex is a great drug that won't kill you in the end, why not get hooked?!?!?

Dead & Grateful · 07-17-2006, 11:14 PM

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Originally Posted by OnOneRyder

Sex is a great drug that won't kill you in the end, why not get hooked?!?!?

Yeah, AIDS and HIV are just stories parents tell their kids to make them go to bed at night.

But seriously, sex before marriage, why not? Getting married does not reduce your percentage of contracting an STD (although the chance does decrease with age, or so I hear), and Vicious is right in saying marriage is not a happy-go-lucky event. Less sex, less love in general in a lot of cases.

OnOneRyder · 07-17-2006, 11:34 PM

What the hell are you talking about? How does being hooked to sex = aids/hiv? Pretty sure you can be a sexaholic, have a gf/bf and have a great time. Seems like you listened to a few too many of those stories your parents told you and didn't bother to question any of them.

If you're responsible you can have a great sex life with people you've just met, you just need to be smart about it and not bone anything with the perfect body.