Parents

[draco]

This is a thread for people to come and get things off thier chest about their parents either good or bad things about them.

Like today my dad made my mom mad because my dad didn't fix his tire or something like that now my mom has to pay a thousand dollars to fix my dads mistake and she started crying because we might not beable to see are cousine this month and that makes me mad becaue this thing always happens when my dad dosn't listen to my mom and mom has to clean up after my dad and thenn my dad makes my mom feel like crap and plus this guys not even my real dad hes a step father.

[Rasler+]

I think the bad thing about my parents is that they still treat me like a little kid. Most of the time when they talk to other people about me, they're like, "Oh, little David's always...blah blah blah" and it's a little embarrassing, especially when some of my friends are listening. I mean, there's Roy (my little brother). Why don't they just talk like that about him? He's just ten, after all.

And my dad's like, so overprotective. Geez, I'm in college, for heaven's sake. He's always like, "Son, let me carry your bag" or something like that. And despite him being caring and all, he has a pretty short temper, especially when he asks us brothers to do something.

And there's nothing really wrong with my mom, but when she starts yelling at my brothers for doing something stupid, I just get really annoyed. Her lectures get kinda too repetitive, it's like a CD playing over and over. And I hate it when people yell at each other or fight, especially inside our house.

Oh, and nice thread, man.

[Fishie]

Everybody has good and bad things they have to say about their parents. Sometimes they annoy you. Sometimes you love them. Sometimes you wish they would just leave you alone but at the end of the day, they're there for you.

The thing I like about my mom is how supportive she is of things that I do. I like how she tends to not sugar coat what she says and how she's there for me. I've always been close with my mom since I was younger more then my dad and it still is the same today. I can trust her with some things that I can talk to her about.

My dad on the other hand is a different story. I will always be grateful that my parents are still together even though they have and will always have their rough times. But throughout my life, moreso when I was younger, my dad wasn't there for me that much. He was an alcoholic and he would never be home. He's even gotten physical with my mother in the past. He didn't really clean up his act till I was aboult 8 or 9 years of age. He had gone to jail for 6 months for child endangerment and assault on hitting my mom. That day my mom had beaten the crap out of him for him hitting her. However, my dad originally called the cops on my mom. And it had backfired and he ended up getting arrested for the warrants he previously had.

After jail, he was sent to go to Anger Management and those AA meetings. He's come a long way to be honest. Even though he has his slips every now and then, I'm just glad that he's not that person he used to be.

A couple years ago, I did go through this phase of being really disrespectful and showing resentment towards him. I'm not gonna lie. I hated him for a while. It just angered me still and how sometimes he forgets the shit that he's put others around him through. But as I got older, I've just accepted my father for who he is you know. I can't change him. I can't change what he's done. That damage is there but I've learned to let it go.

To sum it up. Do I hate my father? No. Do I love my father? No. Do I like him? Yes.

It's a hard feeling to describe to be honest. I don't really think about it all that much anymore. It is what it is but in the end, I still have them.

[Silver]

Me and my parents just seem to mostly ignore each other for better or worse. But I like that in a way as when they do try to talk with me, it's usually when they want something from me or I just feel really uncomfortable when they do something nice. I'm just not ever used to it... And I associate it with them wanting something and trying to temporarily get on my good side.

We're usually cool though. I pay the rent, they most often leave me alone. Seeing some other happier families can piss me off every now and then, but others are worse off than me. It's just ultimately the hand you're dealt, right?

One of my pet peeves with my parents is they can get really nosey at times if they suspect something's up. It rarely is, and never concerns them, but whatever the reason it does piss me off when they're looking over my shoulder the whole day and trying not to make it look obvious...
Like spy movie rejects.

I can't help but feel me and my dad would get on famously if my mum wasn't around. But she has a severe lack of empathy and he's basically her bitch most of the time. Too bad that...

[winterborn86]

When i was living at home from the age of 14-17, I hated my parents, i was always running away from home, and telling my parents how i hated them, and that i would rather die than live with them, I said ALOT of evil and hateful stuff to them, at the time i didnt give a crap, but when i look back at it, i hate myself for it, cos after all that i put them thro at home, when i got my own place they did everything for me, helped me decorate, by furniture, helped me out wit bill payments etc, and now im not livin with them i get along with em loads better, and have alot more respect for them.

[Squall333]

My parents are ok, but I don't really talk to them very much. My dad works out of state so I don't see him very often. He calls every once in a while, but that is about it. As for my mom, she works third shift so she is usually sleeping while I'm awake. It has been like this for quite a few years now. I even had to live with my grandparents for three or four years because my parents weren't around. Now I live with my mom and we have the occasional conversation when she is awake. My parents don't really fight very often, but it doesn't seem that they like each other a lot either. They've never gotten married and it seems they never plan to, but I suppose they are dating maybe. It is kind of a strange relationship. It seems like I'm living by myself, but I'm really not.

[Crazy Chocobo]

I don't really have many problems with my parents, they do bug me sometimes but what parents don't? My parents have always been there for me, especially through the tough times and I am eternally grateful for that. I try to be there for them as well because it is the least I can do. I believe I am very lucky to have parents like them, I love them very much. My Mum and I are very close and I think she really loves my company. I still live at home with them and she said I could stay for as long as I want because she would really miss me if I left. I give them money and such for staying so I help out there and help Mum with grocery shopping and such.

My Dad and I are close too I suppose, he has a bad temper which I have too, same as my older brother. I think we both got it from him which isn't good but he's a good Dad, he always has been and has helped out a lot in the past, and still does. He cares a lot for his family and he's just awesome.

I don't really have any complaints about them..

[Govinda]

I treated me parents like shit from ages 14-16 and I'm amazed and grateful that they still talk to me like I'm a human being. Sometimes I feel I don't deserve it from them.

As a unit, my family has a far from perfect history. Others have critisced my parents for what happened in our family as my brother and I grew up. My parents' relationship was not a happy one, and the way that played out allowed me to realise from the age of about 8/9 that your parent's marriage is about their happiness, not yours. I suppose that about sums it up. It's a long, long horrible story with a very happy ending.

Just now, my relationship with both of my parents is the best it's ever been. I see my mum once a week when I'm home as she lives in Glasgow, and I live with my dad and brother during these summer months. The rest of the time I hardly see them at all, as they've both got jobs and I've got uni. I sometimes wish they'd call me more when I'm away, seeing as I've gone for over six weeks not hearing a peep from any of them before, but I've learned to take it as a compliment; I could have become a crack whore and dropped out in that time, but they trust enough that I haven't to leave me alone. Also, the concept of a child wishing to be in contact with its parents after it leaves home is alien to them - they both ran away, and that's I think why they don't quite get it, and could probably be classed as among the least attentive parents after the kid's left home. Other people's parents call them every day to check up - not so mine, and if I call them they ask quickly why I'm calling, what's wrong, what I might need. They're the best.

[Chez Daja]

Originally Posted by Rasler+

He's always like, "Son, let me carry your bag" or something like that.

I wish my dad carried shit around for me.

Lets see. Well, for years, I really hated my dad because he was an alcoholic and he treated us like crap. When he stopped drinking, the problems with his attitude didn't really go away for a long time. It took about two and a half years for things to actually get to stable ground. I still have some doubts about my dad now and then because things could always go back to how they were.
HOWEVER, my dad has always pretty much provided food and rent for us and yes, he does live here. I love my dad, it's just very hard to tell him because the memories are still pretty fresh. I'm sure when the time comes, I'll be able to forgive him more. It's not that I haven't already forgiven him somewhat. It's just that I can't always talk to him about a lot of things right now.

As for my mother... she's nice, but she ****ing annoys me sometimes. I have a younger brother, and out of my mothers' four children, he's ALWAAAYS been the favourite. This never started to bother me until she kept saying how she needed to do this and that for him. She even spends more bonding time with him than she does with me, and whenever I ask her if we can go for a drive or something, she usually asks Ollie to come, or she asks Ollie if it's okay if we go. She bought him a DS for my birthday, as well. Irony. Boomch.
Other than that, she's a good person, if not a little moody sometimes. Nobodies' perfect, but I do wish she'd treat us slightly more equally.

[Unknown Entity]

I love my mum, but have mixed feelings about my dad. My mum raised me (actually, my nan did because mum had to work lots to keep the roof over our head), and my dad was in my life until I was about 4 years old. Although it was my mums fault they broke up, she heard that he'd been sleeping with someone else behind her back when they were still together - and that this woman was expecting his child. So, now that I think about it, I have a half-brother or sister somewhere. He has also been to prision. He robbed a place, but got caught...

I never really saw my dad for YEARs after they broke up - I saw him a few times a year, or even less, even though he was living about a 30min drive from where I live. As a matter of fact, I never recognised him as my dad when I did see him - He always looked to different from the last time I saw him. I guess I looked different to him too... I saw him on my 16th for the first time in over a year. I thought he was trying to get back in my life to repair the bond he broke all those years ago. But after his visit on my brothers 15th birthday, we haven't heard from him...

My mum has been through a lot too. The boy-friend she went out with just after her and dad broke up treated her like a piece of sh*t. I still remember the time he pinned her against the wall, his hand around her throat, spitting insults in her face. I remember screaming and begging that he let her go. When he didn't listen, I punched at him as hard as I could at that age (5 years). She has met 2 other men since, but they were really nice - one she is still going out with. She still works a lot these days - a lot more than she normally does...

I want to give my dad another chance, but I feel I have given him too many chances all ready. I respect my mum greatly, because she has done her best to look after me and Jamie - even though nan looked after us a lot more.