Seeking advice.

Anachlirium · 10-15-2006, 03:04 AM

Ok. I'm falling for a friend, big time. I would ask her out, but there's a few problems.
1)She's unsure of her sexuality [either that or she's simply not telling me]
2)she likes some other guy.
i really like her, but i don't want to take advantage of the fact that she's unsure of her sexuality. Help, pliss?

Angantyr · 10-15-2006, 03:31 AM

How about change the name to "seeking attention" eh?

Cause thats all these wannabee bi-sexual queers are doing coming online, and it is annoying. If you want attention go do it at one of those christian forums, if you want advice go to those stupid girly magazine websites or something.

Yuki-onna · 10-15-2006, 04:05 AM

Well son, your best bet is to just be honest. Express your feelings to her. Women like it when you're honest. Also, press on the fact that no matter what, you value her friendship and hope you're not screwing things up, but you can't help how you feel.

And being unsure of your sexuality doesn't mean she'll phase men out, it's more like she's in a testing area of what she likes more. Remember, most chicks are at least a little bit bisexual.

Doogalaggyoogy. G'luck, son!

geordanuk · 10-15-2006, 05:23 AM

just to clarify Al Bhed Psycho is a female....I would help but i dont know how to deal with these things myself

Anachlirium · 10-16-2006, 01:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Wintermetal

How about change the name to "seeking attention" eh?

Mind if I ask why my problem is attention seeking? I'm just trying to look for some help. The person I'm talking about is one of the very few friends I have outside of the internet, and the others aren't really people that I can go to for advice. I'm just trying to get advice the best way I can think of. Now how is that attention seeking?

geordanuk · 10-16-2006, 07:09 AM

I don't think it is because you've took an easy way of finding information without this other person finding out

Lover Boy · 10-16-2006, 09:13 AM

Perhaps you should try a board where the only way people get dates is through each other.

Yes, I am aware some of you have equally ugly partners. I don't care.

But seriously. It's a bad idea, asking for love advice in a place where love is so idealized by people who aren't in it that you won't get anything other than "TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL, HER HEART WILL LEAD HER TO YOU."

And if you really care about her, let her be. She's unsure, BUT she thinks she likes this one guy. She's just melodramatic and straight.

Might I suggest a Google search for "Dykes in/near _____"? The ______ would of course be filled in with your hometown.

Unless you feel like driving six hours. Admittedly, I have never felt that love was worth driving six hours.

Malahk Musashi · 10-16-2006, 11:02 AM

Well, ya know there's always the typical girl-girl scenario. Giggle at a sleep over, then kiss her, then see how she responds. Then comes the passionate girl love... and the.... wait, what? o_O. Um...pedobear

Anyway, your best bet is merely to remain a bystander until you fully know what's going on. Rushing into it could destroy the friendship, as well as any hope of getting with her. If she likes this guy, she likes him, nothing you can do. If she doesn't swing that way, you can't change that. And don't say "you don't know unless you try"... yeah, that's been tried on me a few times and they didn't get a favorable response.

Mike · 10-16-2006, 01:17 PM

You should definately be open and honest with her. But ultimately she is the one who has to decide where she stands. Does she know your orientation?? If so then if she is telling you that she isn't sure of her own, that probably means she is looking to you for help.

Kratos · 10-16-2006, 01:35 PM

Hmmmm......It all seriousness......Uhhhh......Act like you tripped and acidently kissed her. If she....Ummmm......Holds the kiss then you should go out with her???xD

Aiight, here's some more advice other than the advice above. Be careful not to wreck the friend/buddy relationship you have with her now. If you come on too hard then she might be really ticked off. Just give it time and see which sexuality she chooses. Basically, try to wedge yourself in there slowly. Going too fast would annoy her and might wreck your friendship.

Angantyr · 10-16-2006, 09:18 PM

I blame it on Americanization, pisses me off to no end... its moments like this I am glad that I am stuck in little old New Zealand... Unfortunatetly I had to witness two ugly Shemale beasts the other day... and whats worse is they had children

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Originally Posted by al_bhed_psycho

Mind if I ask why my problem is attention seeking? I'm just trying to look for some help. The person I'm talking about is one of the very few friends I have outside of the internet, and the others aren't really people that I can go to for advice. I'm just trying to get advice the best way I can think of. Now how is that attention seeking?

What are you 12 ... 13.... 14 at most? I would say a Virgin but I highly doubt it the rate kids are sleeping around these days. I highly doubt you are seriously gay, you are probably just like half the other idiotic females who can't control themselves and constantly cream their panties. I don't mean to be mean but I find it quite amusing a video game forum has a lot of so called bi-sexuals.

Take LB's advice and find a gay forum in google, I am sure there is somebody out there to get you off.

Anachlirium · 10-16-2006, 11:09 PM

Wintermetal, I'm Australian. I'm fifteen. I'm not like you say I 'probably am'. I would classify myself as bisexual because I believe that if I am physically and emotionally attracted to someone, it doesn't matter what gender they are. Becuase I call myself bisexual that doesn't mean that I can't decide, nor does it mean that I 'can't control myself and constantly cream my panties'. And I don't want to go to some gay forum, because I know there are people like that and I know that I'm not one of them, and I don't want advice from them.
I have majour trust issues with people, and the person I am talking about is one of very few people I have been able to trust in years. When I made this thread I was hoping that people would consider It a normal relationship. I'm just trying to look for help, I don't want to lose her. She's a person that has stuck by me, and I can't help that I feel this way about her, and maybe even love her.

Masasume · 10-16-2006, 11:21 PM

My first peice of advice... is to ignore what these homophobic ass holes are saying... (You know who you are) They obviously base things off of false stereotypes anyways. They really shouldnt come into an advice thread and do just the opposite of what is asked in the first place. It only helps show the lack of lives they have outside the internet.

ANYWAYS
What I would personally do... is tell her. If she is really as close of a friend as you say she is then she should understand. And if she freaks out and never talks to you again, then she likely wasnt as good of a friend as you thought she was.
Seriously though if you just sit back and wait to long then you will just lose your chance ya know?
And besides...from my experience...when somebody is unsure of there sexuality they are generally going to end up bi or gay/lesbian.

Blacksmith · 10-16-2006, 11:22 PM

When a lot of the world hasn't accepted it as a "normal relationship" you're not going to find any help here. Especially on a video game forum as WM stated. It's not an everyday topic people talk about. So really, a lot of us could really give less of a shit about your love life. If you want advice take LB's, go where some people have experience on the matter and ask them, not a bunch of nerds/metalheads/whatever. Besides, that was a ignorant statement about not wanting advice from gay people. You can place yourself in a label of being bisexual, but you can still say you are gay. So, stop scaring yourself and go into some of those forums. I'm sure myspace has some place for it. Though I'm sure you'll meet the same circumstances since whenever some young girl is asking for advice they usually get bashed for their naive childish rantings, no pun intended.

WM is right and wrong about one thing though. I wouldn't consider you the type of horny teenage girl that enjoy both sexes, but I would say you are just jumping into the emoish trend of going with the same sex when the opposite sex doesn't want you (in your mind). Try growing up some more before getting into something that could put you in deeper shit.