Is It Wrong?

Me, and two other girls are best friends right? We all have our boyfriends an our own set of problems, and until now we have stuck together. Until now. Friend number one I am gonna call kim, and call her BF Buddy. Friend number Two I am gonna call Nicole and her BF Dork. Way back when (in high school) Buddy an Nicole used to date. They broke up, and never spoke afterwards. Kimberly an buddy got together an became BF an GF a while afterwards. BUddy was the clingy guy, and Kim ended up cheating on him. Ridden with guilt she Told him the truth, and even though she knew they should have seperated for a little while she loved him too much to tear him aways. So they stayed together. Buddy changed. He began to never trust her, but somehow never let her let it go either. The grew distant, and Kimberly cheated again. She did not feel as guilty because Buddy made her feel bad on a regular bases, and his being clingy did not help either. Now they have been together for years. Kimberly confided in me an Nicole. Begging us to not say anything. An Kimberly is a great girl. She wanted to get herself together before she broke the news. KNowing that is would end her relationship. Two days later Buddy broke up with Kim. An low an behold we come to find that Nicole had told him. She had been texting him,a nd getting closer an closer to buddy everyday. Claiming it was only for friends. I believe it was to hurt Kim because Nicole is kinda pathetic an a bitch. That made things worse because that gave Buddy the upper hand. With Kim in that weak state they descided to still be close, and Nicole is still there getting closer an closer to Buddy. As Kimberly is guilt ridden, and needing help. They keep rubbing the rubbing alcohol in worse. Now kimberly is forcing herself to keep hanging on to both buddy an Nicole. What should she do, and who is wrong?

[*Sam*]

Well I think Nicole is wrong for getting close to her friends boyfriend even though they arent as close.
You dont move in on your friends relationship.
Hope that hepls

[Kinky Laughter]

I don't think anyone is wrong in this situation. Funny that you're in that situation cause I just had one similar to this involving my ex boyfriend. Anyways, Nicole did a bad thing by texting buddy, sure I know she did, but everyone is human, we all slip up sometime. My friend Kyle told a whole bunch of people something about me that I didn't want spread around and I ended up not talking to him for three months because of it.

The fact of the matter is it's a tight situation now but it'll definantly loosen up all by itself, and if it doesn't then get them all together to talk about it, even if you don't feel like you should get involved, it's your right as a friend to help out your other friends solve their problems.

Hope everything works out.

[Warren Space]

Kim started it by cheating on Buddy, why didnt buddy just dump her. I would never stay with a girl if she cheated on me TWICE. that's bull.

I thought that too. If buddy didn't dump her I told them they still needed to at least seperate. That way they can work on their problem seperatly so no one would get hurt. Even though is now happened again he is still begging yo be with her! What is wrong with this guy! Love is not that ****ing important if you are getting ripped to shreds. As far as Nicole goes. I wrote her this:

Personally I do not think it is right to become friends with your best friends guy. Reguardless of whether they are together or not. Doing it is just being mean an inconsiderate. I don't think she is jealous I think she just feels betrayed, and I would to. Even if she was with him, and on good grounds it would not be right to hang out with him behind her back. That is a little suspicious. But hey to each their own. If she does keeps you guys around her than she must not have that much of a problem with it. Anyways Luv Ya's


She wrote this in reply: Okay I just want to clear up the things you said. Well I was friends with David first. Yes I did not pay much attention to him in High School, but that is high school. It shouldnt matter if he is my friends boyfriend. He is a person and I can be friends with him. Like I dont care if Kim or you or anyone of my friends started being good friends with Jacob. I dont mind. I know that he is not going to cheat on me and he loves me more than anything in this world prolly. We did not hang out behind her back she knew that we were going out and she said it was okay and then at the last minute she got jealous or something and was being weird and stuff. I dont know why she is getting all mad. If you say its not right for a friend to be friends with your friends boyfriend, then I dont see why Kim is friends with Roy, Roy is Beccas "boyfriend" and let a lone do the things she did with him. I didnt do anything with David and we were friends before him and Kim were friends or even together. Kim was friends with Roy before Becca and him got together and Kim gets to hang out with Roy whenever she wants, how is that right? I am not accusing or anything, I am just trying to understand.

[Sean]

Kim, I'd say.

She's the one who ruined it all at first by cheating, Once a cheater, always a cheater. Words I live by, because they are true.

[Yuki-onna]

Word, mother****er.

My advice, kill them all. With gasoline, **** yeah. I ****ing hate cheaters. Motherbitches.

[TheHasteChocobo]

Originally Posted by Kinky Laughter

I don't think anyone is wrong in this situation. Funny that you're in that situation cause I just had one similar to this involving my ex boyfriend. Anyways, Nicole did a bad thing by texting buddy, sure I know she did, but everyone is human, we all slip up sometime. My friend Kyle told a whole bunch of people something about me that I didn't want spread around and I ended up not talking to him for three months because of it.

The fact of the matter is it's a tight situation now but it'll definantly loosen up all by itself, and if it doesn't then get them all together to talk about it, even if you don't feel like you should get involved, it's your right as a friend to help out your other friends solve their problems.

Hope everything works out.

All three of them are wrong. Buddy mad Kim feel like s**t, Kim cheated on Buddy, and Nicole got all luvy duvy on Buddy before things had time to settle down. But really, don't you women have "intuition" that tells you when to kick a guy to the curb. If Buddy is being a douche (can i say that?) then get real with him and say "if there is no reason for us not to break up then it needs to be over."

But you are right in the second paragraph, time heals all things they say.

What I am wondering is why they keep hanging on to eachother no matter how ****ed up things are getting. On my expecrience if something goes wrong an I really still want to be with that person. Than I go off by myself an think on it for a couple days. What is making Kim tolerate Nicole's behavior. The funny thing is that Kim knows she did wrong, and wants to take a break. Problem is that BUddy doesn't. Infact he has gone as far as to join myspace just to keep a better eye on her, and thinks they should get back together. What is wrong with these people?

[Rurouni_Kenshin]

AS i read this i couldnt help but think about a certain part of 1 of my fav songs...
"You know ill never trust another single thing you say/
you knew your lies would divide us but you lied anyway/
and all your lies has got you floating up above us all/
well what goes up has got to fall"

This may seem as a jacked awnser but no1 is wrong, but at the same time no1 is right.
Sometimes ppl hold onto each other just for the sake of holding on. In the pathetic belief that it'll fix itself and all go away. But the truth is, unless you try to fix it, it will just linger until the facts get screwed up and distorted which will end in an almost definite and permant break-up.
As for "buddy", without trust, there can be no relationship.