splitting up!!

[stardragon]

Does anybodu else had a fight when splitting up???And after that the ex just cannot stop calling and such??O man I really hate it and it's starting to get on my nerves!!Help needed please!!!

[Chez Daja]

Eh, a few years ago, I was with a guy named Chris who was completely obsessed. He had a destructive nature thanks to his mental inablities, for example he would use physical violence A LOT to resolve his constant angry state.

He used to call me up and swear down the phone at me constantly, but I gave him a chance, even though he threatened to both physically harm me numerous times and threatened to kill me a few times as well.

His illnesses were partly to blame for this massive angry condition, as he would argue with me as many times as he could, just to try and prove he could resolve an arguement, which he could not do.

He would talk to me ONLY when it suited him -- not when I wanted to talk, other times he would COMPLETELY ignore me, just because he liked to cast me aside when he was done using me as a verbal punch bag.

After taking a lot of this, I began to get stressed and even a little suicidal. I was literally living in constant hell from his behavior toward me, and because I didn't care all that much for him, one day I left him. He said he cheated on me, but I don't know now if that is true anymore.

After we split up, he would not stop harrassing me... He would call me even more then usual and email me CONSTANTLY telling me to stop being stupid and come back to him. After a while, I threatened him with police action, and he eventually stopped. This was about...two years ago.

I now do not speak to him, but a friend of his often tells me he is still not over me.

So yeah, I've been in a horrible relationship and out of one too. The memory of him makes me shudder at my bad mistakes...The way he treated me was totally wrong.

Anyway, more on topic, yes, I have been harrassed by an ex boyfriend. It's horrible. I suggest you record your phone calls, and then if the problem persists, take it to the police.

[Pete]

My ex was a bon afide stalker. Calling me at all hours in the morning, telling me how she would never forgive me for splitting up with her, all sorts of bs. I just blocked her for a few months and she got the message. Before I met my fiancee, she would IM me and call me over the summer to hang out. It wasn't fun.

Whats worse was when we were together. She was psychotic and obsessive. I has zero freedoms with my friends. I wasn't "allowed" to go drinking, because she thought I would get in some form of trouble. My friends and I had actually planned on faking my death to get out of it, but figured she'd look for the funeral and that wouldn't work out too well.

[Autumn]

Final Fantasy forums are the #1 source for dating and relationship advice.

If you do not want to be contacted by your "ex" then respond with some incredibly harsh comments, said in a casual manner. I'm sure you know some fairly personal information about your "ex", so use it to your advantage in this situation.

[Bunny]

Not-a-one.

Never had a stalker, which makes me a little sad. I would think that they would be fun! Especially now. I'd enjoy hearing about someone getting arrested for trying to sneak on the property that I am now on. Hehehe. My relationships always ended with the girl telling me that she hates me, hopes I die, and never talk to her again. Well, the last one was only on one occasion. But the second time, it was pretty much an unspoken hope that I never try to contact them again. Who knows.

Seeing as I never had a stalker.. can't really give any tips on how to avoid 'em. Have fun with it, I say! Get all into it. Stalk them. Bwahah.

[LocoColt04]

You never specified your ex's gender, so for ease, I will use a masculine pronoun throughout the rest of the post; if this is wrong, my apologies in advance.

I don't know if I'd call your ex a stalker... I mean, you dated him, so it seems like more of an obsession. Stalking is more... creepy. I'm not saying that your ex bothering you with calls isn't creepy in its own right, but it's not the same thing.

Still, the solution is similar for stalkers and obsessive exes alike.

Ignore them. Who cares if it's creepy or scary or whatever else? Just ignore them, and they will find someone else to stalk who acknowledges their existance. At least that's how it works with stalkers, unless they're super crazy, and then they try to kill you because they feel you're no longer good enough...

...uhh, use your best judge of character. You dated him, so you'll know better than the rest of us whether he's the insane type or not. Just ignore him and he should go away.



I can't say I've ever had this specific problem with any of my exes. For me, the breakups usually result in about 4-6 months of no communication, and then friendship again. Sure, none of them are as close as they used to be... but at the same time, that's probably a good thing.

[Leroy]

Haha. Ex's are ****ing wiley. Especially the females. Every ex of mine, has gone and started going out with another guy not too soon after we break up. They enjoy making me jealous, I guess. Some times, as much as I hate to admit it, they succeed.

[GI-Jew]

I remember a long time ago Ecks and I were seeing eachother...It was great at first, we'd stay up all night laughing, making jokes, everything was just perfect, noone could make me laugh they way he did...Then things started to get weird...I came home one night and noticed my door was unlocked, at first I thought I just forgot to lock it, but I went to my room and ecks was on my bed naked and sobbing...Yeah I didn't really have anywhere to go with that story, I'll try harder next time...X's all you can do is cut them off, your not doing them any favours be keeping in touch with them, you gotta cut off all the strings and let them learn what its like to be alone again...**** me I hate crazies, they're such a bitch