TFF Femme Fatales

[Indigo]

Shannen, we're in the same boat. Except in my case, I'm the one gone from home. In order for me to stop missing Nathan, I take the following (drug-free) steps.

1) I have a picture of him on my mp3 player (asleep). Why? Because when I think about him the most is when I'm lying in bed. When I see him all happy and peaceful like that, it just calms me down. I just have a couple pictures with me to look at when I miss him.
2) I don't call him or text message him with great frequency - just every once in a while so that we can update each other on recent happenings and we'll have something to talk about rather than just being really down and "I miss you" conversations.
3) Stay busy. Don't give yourself the chance to feel depressed. Even though you want to crawl away and just think about him for the next 30-whatever days, force yourself to get out and do things. Find friends, go to movies, eat bunches of good food, be merry in general despite how hard it might seem. That way, you'll take your mind off of him, wear yourself out so you'll go to sleep easier, and you'll also have fun in the process.

I just find that through a few things here and there, time passes faster. What Nathan always tells me whenever we're apart for long periods of time is: "Well, this is good, because it'll only make us closer once we're together again." So try to look at it from positive perspectives. It's a drag, yes. But in reality, and over the course of a lifetime, a month or so isn't that long, despite how it seems now. You'll be all right, don't worry.

Yeah, it's my "second" day away from him (although it's technically the third, 'cause it's past midnight, but bleh) and I'm doing better. I just moped the first day, cried all day, stuff like that. But my mom told me it would get better, and it really is. I don't cry anymore. I've been trying to get together with some friends, but none of them wants to hang out. So I think tomorrow I'm going to start my summer reading for classes and such. I do miss him a whole bunch and there are times during the day I just have that horrible feeling in my stomach from missing him, but I think I'll be able to keep myself busy.

And as for your situation.....how long are you gone? I'm just curious. And thanks for the tips. I read a lot of stories from wives whose husbands were away at war, and they helped. Some men are gone for 6 months....and that's a lot more than 5 weeks.

[Indigo]

Oh, I'm only away for 12 days total, I think. I left home last...Wednesday, yeah. I come back on Monday the 20th. I've actually just finished text messaging him, hehe. I joked about how he'll have a chubby girlfriend when I come home because of all the food I'm eating, and he responded with: "When are you actually going to call so we can talk?" Hehe. I have really bad cell service here, so that's why I haven't called him. He knows that, though.

It's not too bad for me - we aren't around each other all day every day - we'll usually see each other every other day at the very least. It drives us both crazy to be apart, but as long as there's an end in sight, it's all good. I'm glad to hear you're doing better - if you ever need anything at all, feel free to yell at me or something. I've got nothing to do here. <3<3

Been a while without activity here.

I got some news. Teng's coming home early! I think he'll get back in the 13th or the 14th, instead of the 18th. That's just next week. It's only a few days earlier, but really, every bit makes a difference to me. I'm doing just fine without him, too. Some dudes at the skating rink asked me out, and I pretended to be a lesbian so they'd leave me alone.

Eh anyway, I have something really sweet to tell you all. I used to like this guy, and I actually asked him out once. He said no, and so of course I've not talked to him in a while. Well today I went to Home Depot in the city to get some wire for my project. I saw him there! I walked straight past him like I didn't even see him. But then I left. I didn't want to stick around. I went outside to my car and it was a beautiful day so I took the t-tops out and turned the music up really loud. He drives by me, and stares at me for a while.......Then I accidentily drove by him once more on the way out of the parking lot, lol. It felt so good, 'cause I know he's all jealous now......

Don't you love walking past someone you once liked? I don't know, but in a mean sadistic way, it makes me happy.

Shannen, you're so devious I've had a situation like that; in my freshman year in high school, my brother had a friend who I had the HUGEST crush on, it was insane. And of course, he didn't like me back. After a couple of months of hopeless "OMG he's soooo cute!" I realized that he wasn't worth my time if he didn't return the feelings. So I stopped crushing on him and felt much better. My brother and him grew apart since he moved, so I didn't talk to him in a really long time. Then graduation rolls around, and he comes by for a visit to my brother; he can't stop talking to me and trying to get me to like him! It was really funny, to see that this guy who I had a crush on finally had a crush on me. Sadly for him I don't have feelings for him at all. I almost wish I'd said something like "Sorry dude, you had your chance and you blew it." but ah well. We're semi-friends, so I guess everything worked out in the end.

Have you guys had a great summer so far? I just got back from the DC / Baltimore area a couple of days back, and I got delayed in Chicago and spent a night there too; I really wanted to have met you Mina, but I stayed with my friend who lived a little distance from Baltimore, so I couldn't =/