Cheating In A Relationship

Cloudgurl69 · 04-08-2006, 07:52 AM

So this is basically a topic about cheating in relationships.

-Has it ever happened to you, or have you cheated on someone?
If so, did you learn from what you did or what happened to you?

-Do you agree with the phrase "Once a cheater always a cheater"?

Also if you want share the stories of times that you have cheated or been cheated on.

Sasquatch · 04-08-2006, 08:13 AM

I wouldn't agree with "once a cheater, always a cheater", but I would agree with "if they'll cheat with you, they'll cheat on you". Though I've never cheated on a girlfriend, I have been cheated on -- which is why I would never cheat on a girlfriend.

TomStrife · 04-08-2006, 08:42 AM

Since you didn`t title this thread "Cheating on a Boy/Girl Friend" I will share when I "Cheated" on God.

I can admit that I have cheated on God most of my life.
I used to only come to Him when I need help, but I would always bash him and hide my beliefs in front of my friends.

I have no changed my lifestyle to the way it should be.
Christianity is a relationship with God, not a religion.

I`m going to assume that you were refering to BoyFriend/GirlFriend (Actually, I`m 100% sure you were, so I`m going to tell me you my opinion without using Christianity to back it up).

No, I have never been cheated on. No, I will never cheat on someone. I think it is wrong.

There you go, straight to the point.

The Welsh Paddy · 04-08-2006, 09:12 AM

I've never really been "cheated on", and I've never cheated on anyone. I have been dumped so my ex could go out with some other bloke, but I actually respect her somewhat for being honest, despite the fact I thought it was wrong, because she never really gave a reason for it. It was along the lines of. "I think we should just be friends." and then suddenly she had another boyfriend.

Anyways. To the point. I'm against cheating, unless you have a reason to. I mean, I've known people who've been having problems in a relationship, and because they're too uncomfortable about saying it to their boyfriend or girlfriend, they just go out, and eventually find themselves another person. The way I see it, relationships are the most complicated thing ever. You'll never have a relationship without arguments, or some sort of problem, and they could turn out either for the worse, or for the better. They can be so unpredictable.

This actually brings up a question. Would you think people REALLY cheat for no reason? Or would there be one reason or another, however small?

Chez Daja · 04-08-2006, 09:44 AM

I've never cheated on anyone. I've been cheated on though. Once.

I learnt a lot from being cheated on, and how much it hurts, so I guess that's why I'd never do it personally.

A while ago though, I used to pretend to randomy guys on the internet that I liked them, and then drop them. It was only to guys I really disliked though. I know that's wrong in itself, hence why it's been a while since I last did it. And I refuse to do it again.

No, I wouldn't cheat on anybody. Why? I don't want to play anybodies' heart. If I care about someone, I care about them above everything else. That means, no, I won't cheat on them. Besides, if I did, guilt would just chew me up anyway.

I guess being cheated on in the first place kinda teaches you how much it hurts. I don't want anybody to go through what I did when I was younger.

04-08-2006, 10:57 AM

I don't understand why people feel the need to cheat. Mind you, that's probably because I'm crap with relationships and I feel lucky to be in them, therefore not wanting to destroy them lol.

Gorath Sodom · 04-08-2006, 11:06 AM

I believe in free love. Anyone should be able to fvck who they want, even if they're a bunch of homos or dirty inbreeders. Hell, even if they're paedo, zoo, or necrophilliacs. I might not agree with it, but as long as they don't do it in my house, it's all good in the hood.

hellbred · 04-08-2006, 11:09 AM

I've cheated one time, on the only girl I really have only loved, which I later learned.

We were only going out for about 6 months, when I got a job at an Italian restaraunt and ended up meeting a ton of people. I talked with one of the hostess's and went to a hotel party and did a bunch of stuff with here, but never had sex....just stuff (without going into details).

At the time I didn't know if I wanted to be with her because she was a lot younger than me, and I didn't see it going anywhere -- turns out we stayed together for 4 more years, in which time I ended up leaving her for reasons she understood, and till this day she's the only girl I can honestly say I love.

I think that because I still feel the same for her today as I did 5 years ago when we met.

Since then, I've never been able to have feelings of "love" for any female. Not sure why, it just doesn't happen.

04-08-2006, 04:40 PM

Relationships are truly based on trust, and cheating on someone really shatters that trust and can destroy the very foundations the relationship is based on (ie: friendship). When you cheat, you're not only risking you're relationship, you're also risking you're reputation, you're friendships with the people around you etc. Is it really worth it to lose so many people and cause so much pain and turmoil?? I don't think so at all quite frankly.

Nekoness · 04-09-2006, 12:25 AM

I cheated once and I'll regret all my life. My feelings to that guy started to fade and I met someone else(which last for a short period of time). Things happened..I told my bf and he had the heart to fogive me..yet we broke up later..BLEH

I learned from my mistake and I never will hurt someone like this again...

Pablo Honey · 04-16-2006, 06:30 AM

Relationships are about purity of feeling; if you should truly be with the person you're with, you won't look elsewhere. If you do, then there's no way in hell you truly love that person. There is no excuse for it, and if one partner cheats, I am of the opinion that the relationship should end. It won't work out if both people aren't totally devoted.

There you go. Concise and clear.

Crazy Chocobo · 04-18-2006, 01:34 AM

I have never cheated on my boy. I would never do such a thing. I love him very much so I wouldn't even consider it. I do believe that most people who cheat once will normally cheat again. If you see shows like Maury Povich, you see that kind of stuff all the time! People who cheat are normally heartless and never care about the feelings of others. It's sad to see. I have never experienced being cheated on, I would never want to.

I haven't been cheated on, at least I don't think so. My last boyfriend was someone who I was suspicious of at times. I never asked him if he cheated on me, we broke up anyway. Most people who cheat always have to confess because they just feel so guilty about it and can't live their lives like that. They still seem to do it again anyway. Some people stop their bad ways but many don't.

You have to be happy with the person you're with. Some people cheat because they're just not happy with their current partner. I know I'm very happy.

Leroy · 04-18-2006, 06:28 AM

Ah, I've had alot of opportunities to heat on my girlfriend/Ex-girlfriends. I just go to crazy partys, where I always get stuck talking to drunk, horny girls. It's not bad, but It isn't easy on me either. To this day, I've never cheated on somebody I love, which has been just about every girl I've been with, except one. There's a good reason why I won't cheat on someone. Alot of guys I don't like, are really sleazy and cheat on their girlfriends. I promised myself I'd never be like them ^^

Ah, seeing as you weren't being specific about the topic, I'll just say this. I have cheated on countless people I don't like. It's just who I am =\