Do you believe in romantic love?

[Ted Zanarukando]

I know that romantic relationship is a natural thing, but I do not believe in it. One reason is feminist ideology and propaganda. I am afraid of having to go through the feminist family courts, becoming financially burdened with alimony or child support. 93% of divorces in the U.S. were initiated by women. I would be a more responsible man if I were a husband and/or father. True love does not exist for me. It is not that I oppose the female sex. I am also afraid that, contrary to popular belief, women often initiate domestic violence. Men face domestic violence charges even when they are victims.

[Mike]

I do believe in Romantic love. It exists but finding the perfect person isn't easy. It also takes work to maintain. The reason most relationships don't work out is because people are not willing to change who they are for someone else. If you find someone you love and who loves you back you both have to work at it. You have to grow together. If you don't be open and honest with them about everything then you end up putting a wall between you. My wife and I have a very honest relationship. We tell eachother anything that is on our minds. Just remember to stay calm and don't over-react to whatever happens in your relationship.

LEGAL marriage, to me, has nothing to do with Romantic Love. I find you should be married before you do anything, like have children and such. Marriage is yes giving your life to the one you love and promising you will be with them forever; to care for them and to always be at their side even when things are at there worst. The court to me is screwed up. I think you have to pay for a marriage license... Sure they have to keep records, but to pay for it. I don’t know. Anyway, marriage to me is what I said above. It has nothing to do with the courts; it is a spiritual thing you feel between you and your lover. Legally married is a whole other story.

Not all women/men are bad and abusive. There is someone out there special for everyone... As Mike said, you have to find them and change for them. Devote your life to them and love them. But if you have to change everything about yourself, looks, personality, and beliefs. Then I doubt that person is your Soul Mate.

Romantic Love is real. I have learned Love in itself is what we want it to be. It is different for some of us. Care about your lover, obviously love them, be with them, take them to special events, do special things for them, and even drop some of those habits for them. Though take your time, enjoy the boundless freedom for a while and get to know who you want to spend your life with for a few years.

[Yuki-onna]

Marriage and divorce has little to do with love. These days it's a fad and too easily run into.
That statisitics may say this or that, proves very little, seeing as no one can oversee anything completely and things are always changing. Most statistics are fabrications anyway.

Romantic love grows and dies, but love stays. It brands into your soul and never leaves you.

[Gorath Sodom]

Like I said before, the only thing that drives romance is lust.

How often to people seek out a significant other because they think they have an awesome personality rather than because they feel a physical attraction? Surely it's possible to be both physical and psychologically attracted to someone, but lust is more often than not the driving factor.

[Sasquatch]

More often than not, sure. But there's a difference in love and lust, obviously. You may not, but many people do base attraction on personality traits rather than physical appearance. I've been attracted to people I would rather not have done much physical with, because I was attracted to their physical appearance very little and attracted to their personality entirely. The "love" that kids and teens think they have is usually lust of some sort, but that doesn't reflect at all on mature, responsible adults.

[Mike]

Originally Posted by ultima_trev

Like I said before, the only thing that drives romance is lust.

How often to people seek out a significant other because they think they have an awesome personality rather than because they feel a physical attraction? Surely it's possible to be both physical and psychologically attracted to someone, but lust is more often than not the driving factor.

Most people do look for lust more than love, but for the last two years before I met my wife I never had a date. I'd go to bars and clubs with my friends all the time but only for the drinks and dancing. Don't get me wrong I would definately approach a hot looking girl over an okay looking girl when I was looking for someone to date. But most just didn't have the personality that I think all women should have. Mind you, bars and clubs are not the places to go looking for people you want to have a real relationship with. Most who are there just want booty calls or friends with benifits. But in Germany tat's really the only places I could go to find American chicks or english speaking people. I eventually stopped looking for love. My plan was that I would probably meet someone, in college, after I got out of the Army. I was wrong.

One day we get this new private in the company, she was straight out of Basic Training. I really didn't notice her for a while but we did keep bumping into each other at different places. Finally I was formally introduced to her when she showed up at one of my buddies going away party. We started talking and I was amazed to find someone who was not only very attractive but down to earth with all the same interests as me. We hung out a lot the rest of the weekend and after work on Monday we had our first kiss. It was like nothing i ahd ever felt before. We were inseperable after that and are now married.

The moral of the story is, you will share a very real connection with your true love. It will make your physial attraction to them stronger and everything you do together will seem better than anything else in the world.


sorry for such a long post. i kinda got carried away.

I'll admit I will look for someone who looks good. Not really some "hot" person but rather someone who is well kept and has a high/good demeanor. I however look for someone who has a good personality, someone I can easily relate to and has something’s in common with me. Someone I can be myself around.

People have met others on the Internet and gotten married (My sister). I however wouldn't. Perhaps a picture is posted of them... though I wouldn't then trust how they look. In some cases, you could just meet someone your age on a forum like this, talk and enjoy yourselves as friends and perhaps meet each other. I haven't a clue what anyone of you look like, but I still post here and talk directly to people. Basically I'm saying Lust and Looks aren't always what people are looking for. But yes, most times then not, it's lust.

Lust and Romantic Love are two waaay different things.

And Mike I couldn't agree with you more.

[Lethal Seraphim]

Of course romantic love exists. There's a psychological explanation of it and a basis for it to exist. If I had my Intro to Psych book right here I'd type some of it out for you, but yeah it's for real. This reminds me a lot of the other post that anubis started, the Boyfriend/Girlfriend one.

I'd have to agree with the majority of the posters on here and say that yes, romantic love does exist. I'd shudder to think of being "in love" for anything other than romance; money, lust, the marriage of two countries (as per feudal Japan)...it makes love such a lackluster, understandable thing.

And isn't what we get excitement from in love is that wonder of why? I am deeply in love with someone, and they are deeply in love with me as well, but there is always the wonder; why me, why her, why us, why now? It's a strange and beautiful thing that I can't get enough of.

[Pablo Honey]

Romantic love exists. People have written far too many songs for it not to. My best friend is 16, and she's been with her boyfriend for almost 2 whole years; the amount of time she still spends talking about proves the existence of love to me, haha. And then there's the relationship i'm in currently...

Lust...hmm. I'll admit, most people go into relationships looking for one thing and one thing only. But those couples never last very long. I have another friend who slept with her boyfriend after 3 weeks...it won't last. I think that if you go into something based on the other person's personality the physical part just kind of happens. That makes for a lasting reltionship, in my opinion. But, haha, saying that, my best friend only started talking to her boyfriend because, and I quote, 'He's the most STUNNING guy EVER!'

Marriage is a bit of paper. The idea means more than the ceremony. And as regards money, my parents have been seperated for God knows how many years, but remain legally married because they both stoutly refuse to pay the anullment fee. And the school wonder why i'm a bit mouthy...

Anyways, love exists. Find the person you want to be with no matter how long it takes, and enjoy the time you have with them.

[neoistheone]

I believe in it more than anything else in this world. Well except my own religion. But well I think that everybody in this world has that special someone. You just have to look for that person. That's why people date. To try to find that special someone. And yes getting married now in days isn't as it used to be. But that's because people today rush into to it so quickly. They think they found that special someone. And quickly run of with that person. Later to realize that they are wrong. But I mean not all people are that way. There are still plenty of happly married couples who have been together since they were in their early 20's. But well I believe in it. Because I believe I'm in a romantic love relationship. I've spent my whole life saying that one day I'll find that special girl that will like me for who I am. Because most girls just say "no" when I ask them out and conclude that I'm way too ugly for any girl to date. So well I've spent most of my life on the side lines. I almost gave up hope. But I still waited. I used to think that the special girl would just show up one day. But I later realized that my idea of that happening is unrealistic. I realized I have to keep a more open mind. Look everywhere. Keep my eyes open. So well as of right now, I believe that romantic love exists. The only flaw is that people needed to spend more time with that person before rushing into getting married. Everybody in this world before they die has to fall in love at least once. And everybody in this world has to have their heart broken to realize that they were in love.